The Usual Suspect: The Friend with Benefits

Being "in friend" with someone doesn't mean you're in a relationship. But in a parallel universe where I live in, friendship is still a relationship that you need to work for. You need to set yourself from the most unlikely possibilities your friendship can have. Its like living in a world where everything you do needs constant attention. And what you do or give, you expect to receive something in return.

Everyone expects to have an outcome on what they do. But the thing is, are you true or just playing a role? Okay get this. Do you think that friendship might lead into... I don't know? Maybe a real relationship? In my world there are these few people who needs these kind attention to get ahead. It doesn't matter if they use other people just to get that advantage. The people who uses other peoples power just to stay on top or should I say relevant.  We all have encountered them and we all once one too. I mean its common trend don't you think?

And In order to stay on top they would project themselves as your number one fan and please you in a way you like just to make you feel they're real. I just hate it when people do that. Somebody who has projected that they're real doesn't really justify their realness. People like these are fakes. 

So to me there are things that coincide with the word: Fake. That is.. Jealousy, Insecurity, Competition. 

Jealousy is like a defense mechanism, it meant to solve nothing. Its like a two way mirror, you only see yourself and that my friend makes you selfish. 

Insecurity make people do random shit that they don't know what the outcome will be. It doesn't matter if you're walking people over. You just do your thing and not care about the people around you. You are insecure, get some therapist and get this over with.

While competition is not a bad thing cus this help you grow. It just matter how you fight. Girl if you're doing your battle in a wrong way then you're not helping your self. You are just making everything worst. You are making yourself worst!

If you have a lot more to take than to give to the other person you're being unfair. You are selfish. Stop before anything gets too worst that it would blow up to your face and there will be nothing you can do about it. You need to save yourself from that.

Being real doesn't need words. You just need to show the people around you what you really feel. Cus if you dont, how do you expect other people to be real with you. It's the most simple and most basic strategy to stay in good terms with your friends. At lease if you want to. Haha. 

Now for the people who still live in the fantasy where they might end up in a place where they expect to be. Get a reality check. I'm not being too offensive about this because I've been there. Actually I still live there. I can be even voted as a vice mayor of that land. Okay, I know its great to live in that world but lets just be honest to ourselves and accept the fact that people are users, all us are users. We just need to make the best out of it and try not to get carried away. People expect to give and receive. But dont just give to much and expect to have a big amount of receiving, and in vice versa. 

So if you truly want to be "in friends" with an other person, know your limits. The "Just Friends" category is not too bad. Just bear with it. Who knows maybe your so called friendship might turn into something. But make sure that you always address what you're feeling. Determine how you feel about the person and how they feel about you too. Communication is only gonna make your relationship closer. Never lead someone on. Solidify the friendship from the start. Set your egos aside. Egos will on ruin the friendship you're trying to build. And always make sure that your watching what you're doing to not lead the other person on.

So boys, girls and gays. Never expect a relationship out of friendship. It's hard to be heart broken specially when there wasn't even a relationship to begin with. If they just want to be friends, take it! It's far more better than a massage with a happy ending trust me. Just cherish the friendship you have and you might end up learning something from it.

xo Manic Pixie